How She Shaped My Foundation -LOH #186
I was almost 16 years when I went to live with my grandma. I had lived with my mom all those years and even though I was the only girl, I didn’t even know how to hold a broom, literally. My mom had tried so many times to get me to learn you know, the basic things I needed to know. I on the other hand had other plans and of course they did not involve anything about the kitchen.
In fact I only wanted to be a career woman, own a fleet of cars, some houses here and there, and my plan to get there was basically to study all my life. Back to when I went to live with my grandma. My grandma was one of the most disciplined women I’ve ever seen in my life. During my early days in her house she sounded scary most times and that’s because I didn’t know how to do anything. Anytime, I heard her voice, I felt scared not knowing what else she was going to ask me to do.
Once she realized I didn’t know how to do anything, she created a routine for me. I had to sweep the yard every morning, wash the dishes all the time, and scrub the bathroom every Saturday. Trust me when I say I felt like a step daughter living with a wicked grandmother. I thought she hated me because aside the routine, I had other random chores to do during the day. Oh and they were all impromptu. She could just call me from my sleep and I would have to wake up and do what she’s asking of me.
Sometimes, it felt like I was in the military school because she was always hard on me. Even though I was stubborn, I eventually started changing. There are so many things I learned from her and even till date, I bless the day I stepped foot in her house. When I left her place to my mom’s, my mom was surprised to see me sweeping in the morning. She was more shocked to see me doing the dishes. All that I learned from her were even more helpful when I went to the university.
During all those times, as I said, I thought she hated me but after I grew up and started seeing life as it is, I got to know how much she loved me. I will always be grateful to her for how she changed me. When I think about how my Grandma took me from 0 to 100, it feels she definitely was the Angel that I needed at that time.
Thank you so much Grandma and I miss you everyday. Keep resting and being my guardian Angel. You will forever be in my heart.
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Wow thanks to her, everyone sometimes had that strict motherly figure. Probably your mum or dad, grandma or grandpa. There are just there to correct and help us especially those things our parent didnt lay hands on.
I would say she was your military supervisor. Thanks for sharing
Military supervisor, haha, that’s fancy
But yeah, she was
Thanks for sharing
You’re welcome
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Every child felt hated growing up when we where corrected but now we are all happy we had to feel that way to become the best version of ourselves
Yeah you’re right
One thing I understood is that your grandma would be an influencing personality whose command could not be denied. Otherwise how would an old lady be able to make a stubborn 16 years old do the things she disliked.
The good thing is that you now understand that it was her love for you that made her be disciplined with you. It is true that a hsrd training makes difficult things easier.
Thanks for sharing your experience with us.
It was hard to deny her influence because of how she was.
Thank you for these great topics.
👍♥️👌
You got me laughing here 🤣
I am sure now you know you were the best to grandma out of her grandchildren
I also felt hated when growing up with my Aunt but guess what, I regretted ever feeling like that now because I am making good use of everything she taught me well
Yeah it’s because we were kids.
I couldn't resist laughing out loud after reading this part, oh no , stubborn Abenad got humbled by her grandma by fire by force, hahaha 😂
I.love most of our African mothers for their method of training
I grew up too with my grandmother, hmmm, long story for another day
Overall, I am happy for the woman you have become
May her soul rest in peace
Haha by fire by force😂😂
Amen, May her soul rest in peace
I would wonder what kind of life your grandma had, it probably wasn't easy, and not with the amenities you are used to and maybe even taken for granted. Whatever her life was, it was meant to better your life, preparing you for the hard times, preparing you to be a productive and self reliant person. Most important is to never mistaken discipline for hate but act of love. I learned this lesson from my Nursing Teacher that my fellow student hated. She may 'Torture' her students but in the end turned out to be the best prepared ones out of all the teachers. ❤️
Yeah I learned it the hard way
Thank you so much
Children who grow up with their grandparents are wiser and stronger than those who didn't.
It's good to know she shaped your life.
Yeah really good
Grandma's sure have a way of instilling values in us. Sometimes, we think they're wicked but it's just for our own good.
A #dreemerforlife
Yes it is for our own good most times
Thank you dreemer
I had a similar experience to yours, back then, the trainings were harsh and unbearable but today, I'm really enjoying the dividends.
#dreemerforlife
Haha, enjoy while it last
Thank God you went to stay with her and learnt the things you did, she was really the angel you needed then. I'm glad you also appreciate her and understand that she was coming from a place of love and not hate.
#dreemerforlife
Yeah she actually was the angel I needed
Thank you dreemer
Succintly put, you felt like Cinderella 😂🤣😂🤣.
Your mother has looked at you with Eagle eye and resolved that this girl has to go, otherwise imagine your life without grandma??
What your mom did with you, is the same thing my grandfather did with my uncle. He was the only son at the time and my grandfather always let him have his way.
He became a terror and that was when my grandfather sent him off to his inlaw.
He turned really ok compared to his brother who grew up with their parents.
Your mom shoukd have even sent you to Grandma when you were a baby make hand for touch small 🤣😂🤣😂
Can't help but laugh at how humbled you must have been 😂
PS
You are a spitting image of your Grandma 😍.
came in from #dreemport
#dreemerforlife
Baby?
You’re just wicked in all angles🤣🤣🤣
😂🤣😂🤣