My Toughest Reform -LOH #190
People normally say last borns are lucky which I fairly agree. I believe everyone here knows I’m the last born of my parents because I’ve over broadcasted it. I’ve been taken care of all my life. This particular position of mine in the family made it so hard over the years to learn how to take care of myself, to grow mentally, to be independent, to think and decide for myself. I always depended so much on my mom and family for everything.
Anything that involved using my brain was not something I was interested in(except academics). They used to say oh for Abena? Let’s leave her because she doesn’t have enough sense to think for herself. Were they wrong? Yes, but could I prove them wrong? No.
During Covid 19 time, all schools closed down and we were asked to come home. I came home only to hear that my mom was at the hospital, on admission.
Everyone at home had travelled and the country was on lockdown so I was the only one available. I had to take charge. Manage my mom’s finances, reply her phone calls and emails, feed her plus hospital rounds. So it’s more like I had to take care of my mom. Trust me, I was scared because even at that time, I could barely take care of myself. I remember I used to ask google for everything, it might sound funny now but it was really serious at that time.
I used to cry every night because I didn’t know my left and right. It was so hard. There were days I went to the hospital without food and then the nurse would ask me about my mom’s food and then I would now remember and come back home to make something and send it back. My brain was everywhere. There was nobody to tell me what to do but I believed in myself and realized I wasn’t doing it for any ordinary person but my mom. It took a while before my mom was discharged. I kept on doing all that I was doing even after she was discharged.
Within those weeks, I saw so much improvement. I could think for myself, I could look at something and say no I don’t want this instead of waiting for my family to decide for me. It was a long ride but I kept growing. It was really hard sometimes but I kept riding through it.
I can’t even explain how hard it was to grow up. At a point, it felt like I was carrying this huge burden. It was a lot for me. It was like a high school graduate being asked to mange a company. Where is she even going to start from?
I later came to understand that it’s important to grow up mentally, think and decide for myself because that’s the only way to learn in life. I may make mistakes during the journey, but that would be my one way ticket to learning so many things.
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Abena no get sense to think for herself....
E no easy 😂😂😂✨
Glad you got sense b 😂
Seki Seki? You’re just calling for my trouble….let me add you to my list and prepare my gun😂
Gun?
Tataa of the house dey handle gun?😂😂
Stand where you are and wait for me
I quote
I may make mistakes along the journey but that's my one way ticket to learning so many things.💞
In every journey there is bound to be mistakes our ability to learn from it, dust ourselves up and buckle up again is the reason for the journey .
Thanks for sharing dear abena
Right, those mistakes are the only way to finding out certain things
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'Growing up' can be painful when you not only shoulder responsibility on yourself but for others as well. Making mistakes happen especially when you cannot think logically under pressure and when sound advice is not available at the moment.❤️
Oh okay, I’m going to keep this in mind
Thank you
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I'm glad at that tough moment you get to find yourself as well!!
Thanks Young tari
I’m glad you were able to pull through and help your mom. I just hope you didn’t spend all her money 😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣
Oh so that’s how you see me
Awwwwww I bet your mom will be shocked when she recovers to find out you were there all along taking care of her
Yeah she was
You're amazing 💚. So proud of you and what you have done. Love the fact that you were able to help your mom in everything while she was unable to do that.... That's so lovely.
Thank you so much Justine
I can relate, sometimes I am like that too, I feel like I am not responsible sometimes and I keep imagining the type of mum I’d become. I only know how to cater for myself and adding two or three people to the mix is terrifying.
Terrifying indeed, we’ll be fine
That's a great story. I enjoyed reading it.
Thanks
My Grandma use to say, experience is ones best teacher. There usually comes a point in them when it happens to everyone not only last borns but you will be surrounded by a scenario or an event whereby you will be forced to learn yourself and understand somethings naturally. I always love reading your contents. Its amazes me.
Thank you for sharing
Yeah I agree, thank you
Enjoy your holiday.
Sometimes we grow up fast when things happen. Your mom getting admitted to the hospital seemed to be a blessing in disguise for you to discover your need to grow up as a person and learn to decide for yourself. ❤️
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Yeah it really was a blessing in disguise🥹
I can't relate, I think I grew up too fast lol 😆 experience is definitely the best teacher.
Having to start caring for your sick mom all of a sudden must be really tough for you, and it is amazing how much that experience has taught you. I'm sure everyone in the family will be proud of how you managed the situation.
#dreemerforlife
Yeah they were all
Your lastborn is enjoyment last born oo ha, thank God you've grown and can now do things for yourself.
I popped in from Dreemport always an awesome #dreemerforlife.
Thanks dreemer
Some situations we face tend to bring out some part of us we never realized was present in us, it was great that you found your foot in the midst of the whole situation.
#dreemerforlife
Thanks dreemer
You're welcome.
Being decisive in life is very key to fulfilling purpose and destiny. Good of you to be able to stand on your own.
Sometimes we need certain situations to help us see life from a different angle.
I'm sure your mum and your siblings must've been really proud of you
Yeah they were