My Two Cents On Being A “Yes” Wife - LOH #204

Sometimes when I think about the heartbreaks I went through some years back, I get angry at myself but on the other hand, it’s all good because I know better now. And I only know better now because of such experiences. I’m so tempted to blame it on the fact that I was naive and didn’t know anything but then, that’s so not true. Even if I didn’t know anything, I knew what love was because I come from a home full of love. I am very much loved at home and I’ve been experiencing it in all angles.

During my days of being so naive, I always exchanged compromise with sacrifice. I really thought love was all about compromising. Wrong! It’s rather all about sacrificing and a weeny tiny compromise. If I have to compromise my thoughts ideas, actions, and always say yes or okay just to make you happy then truly, you’re in my life to cause me stagnation. This is no where near love.

Years back, I wouldn’t have even thought twice about being with someone I had to only agree with but now? Come on darling, don’t you think if I wanted to be doing “Yes sir, master” all the time, I would have joined the military?

I believe one of the most beautiful ways of being intimate with your partner is talking to them. Getting to know their opinions on pressing and normal issues. Getting to know why they think what they think. So if I were to be that wife whose partner wants to hear nothing but a yes or okay from me all the time, it just wouldn’t work out.

I wouldn’t feel loved and respected in an anyway. I understand that my husband would be expecting to prevent arguments with this “policy”. I on the other hand, would also be piling a lot of things in me and someday, I would have no option than to burst and that would even cause worse arguments than he’s been preventing. In as much men hate arguments, they have to know that sometimes, arguments prevent breakup or divorce because you get to let it all out.

A lot of ladies are just “existing” in relationships waiting for the right window to jump out because their partners never want to hear what they have to say. They believe they are the men in the relationship and have to lead. Listen, I understand that there could be times where I would lean too much on my emotions to want the wrong things. If it’s one of those times and then my partner comes in to help me see what’s the best thing to do, then that’s fine. Even with that, it’s totally up to me to decide if I’ll go with what he’s saying or not.

Not having much of a say in a relationship officially turns it into a dictatorship and with what I know about dictatorships, they never end well.