End of the connection

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Mary and I were more than friends, her household knew me and my household knew her. Her mother even followed me on Facebook at the time.

Our friendship was solid until late last year when I had gotten into a big problem.

I was framed and when the trouble started, Mary was the first person I texted. Sharon who is my close friend now wasn't a close friend then so I didnt bother texting her of what had happened.

Gradually, the set up started metamorphosing into a serious issue and if not for God and the contacts that I have made, I would have gone to Jail.

At a point, I resigned from my job and left social media for a while.

After I had cleared my name and was free from all accusations, I came back online and tried to get my life back on track.

The day I turned on my phone, it almost crashed from incoming messages and missed calls. When the phone was done loading all the notifications, I went through them one after the other to see who texted and checked up on me.

I got no calls or text from Mary. I felt abandoned and I felt unloved.

When I saw notifications from Sharon, I went through her messages and saw how worried she was that she hasn't seen me online. She was even more worried that my number was off and the messages she was sending wasn't delivering but she kept sending anyway.

Other messages and calls that came in were work related from my previous employment.

I called Sharon afterwards and explained all that had happened and she kept screaming and thanking God for me.

Sharon took it as a point of duty to always call and check up on me. I still haven't heard from Mary and I didn't call or text till I became dead broke and needed some financial assistance. Remember I had resigned from my job and exhausted all my money.

I could not ask Sharon for money because like myself, she was not employed and she just relocated. I had no choice than to reach out to Mary.

It was a Sunday morning and she promised to call me back once she's back from Church with her boyfriend. I waited for Mary's call but I didn't get any so I texted her about assisting me with Five thousand Naira and she didn't respond.

After like three days, she called and conveniently did not talk about my request. I reminded her and she said she will send but never did. After that call, I did not hear from her again.

I went on to ask for her assistance twice and she never came through for me.

Was I angry? Yes! I was upset because I would never do that to her. Even when its not convenient for me, I ALWAYS come through for her.

Heck! I got into a fight twice because of this girl that it almost caused me my National Youth Service Corp (NYSC) Certificate. I sustained injuries that turned scars.

I knew she was in a position to assist me financially but that was not my grieviances towards her. I was angry that she never gave me her attention at a point in my life that I needed it most.

The last time she managed to talk to me, she said she was a bit under the weather and I just kept my distance afterwards.

Fast forward to several months during Connect, Learn and Earn Podcast on twitter hosted by Starstrings and hivelearners, I talked about it and Starstrings adviced I reach out to her again given how close we were, so I did.

I noticed how cold she was towards me but I ignored and kept pushing, then she told me she is very ill and her employers even gave her sometime off to heal. She also said she's going through the worse heartbreak as her boyfriend left her.

I felt really bad for my actions as she was also fighting her demons. So I would always call, text and check up on her. Gradually the communication started flowing but it wasn't the same. For some reasons it felt distant.

Sharon and I became really close and we will post about each other often on our WhatsApp status.

I never knew this angered Mary as she one time said, "Sharon is your best friend now, well done". I didn't even respond because this is the same person that will post her colleagues, tagging them BFF, family and sisters and I do not complain.

After a while I stayed on my lane and she started reaching out. By now she has recovered and gone back to work but she needed closure. On one of our conversations she disclosed to me how her break up is the reason she's been ill.

According to her she had invested so much in the relationship because she thought that it will lead to marriage.

She told me how she gave him a hundred thousand Naira to support his car repair, this was the same time I was desperately in need and was asking her for as little as five thousand Naira.

Regardless, I was there for her and assisted with her healing process through the break up.

I still did not hold her actions against her till she became overbearing.

I had posted a written photo I saw on fb on my WhatsApp status.

The photo read, difficult times reveal people's intentions and one should pay attention how people treat them those time.

Mary took it personal and responded, saying she will never text me again.

I warned her, "do not start please, else I block you" and she went on ranting that I should block her afterall friendship is not by force.

I blocked her on all social media platform and severed ties with her.

If I am to be honest, even if she comes back, there is no friendship left to get back to.