QUEENING. #173

source

Everyone needs a support system, even introverts. Most people who live secluded lives have their own circle of friends, or maybe a friend they are always comfortable to run to.

If I do get pregnant for a man who can stand up for me or not, I'm still going to walk away of his family is rude. Most women love a man that's capable of defending them, wherever with whoever, but I say if his family don't love you, it's not worth it.

I can't bear to see my man fighting with his family all the time cause they are rude to me. Where would it stop? Sorry to tell you though, it won't stop.

What's going to happen when we attend family parties, dinners, celebrations and everything family does? I'm going to be the odd one out, and since my man isn't going to be around me all the time, I would feel out of place.

I'm really not the type that likes drama, rather than be happy he's always on my side, I'll choose my peace over drama and walk away. I'm not going to be the reason why a family is torn apart.

I'm not sure if it's common knowledge, but being on good terms with your man's family is the biggest flex ever. If they like you, they would all go over and beyond for you. They will always have your back and watch out for you.

If I can't have a good relationship with them family members, it's game over. I'm simply going to leave and have my baby around a love filled atmosphere. A place where he or she would be loved, no questions asked.

It might not make sense to some people to walk away as long as your man stands for you, but trust me, he's not. Who's going to talk some sense into him when he misbehaves? Who will have your back when things maybe go sour with you? I don't where I'm not invited and certainly where I'm not wanted.

If I can't have his family treat me like a sister, daughter or friend, what's the point. Marriage or not, getting pregnant for a man automatically makes you and your child a member of the household. Life is too short to endure ill treatment from anyone just to be on their good side, I don't even think it has ever worked for anyone though.

I'm a queen, a spec and if I can't have a seat on the table, then it's not for me. You know what's worse? Having a man who can't even stand up for himself, much less you. It's only a boy that will sit still and watch someone else talk down on his baby mama. I'm certainly not going to be with a man who reasons and acts like a sheep to be pushed everywhere.

I certainly don't want a man that's going to run to his family whenever he needs to make a decision. I know it's okay to ask for opinions from family about a thing or two, but where's the line? How long before he starts spilling gists about our relationship? What if he hearkens to every advice and starts treating me like I don't matter? Why would I want to condemn myself to a doormat? If there's anything worth being selfish about, it's one's mental health.

The moment I start getting maltreated is the moment I walk away. I'm a queen and queens don't settle.