Books and life competition. Edition 2

Here we are , almost at the end of 2024 and maybe all of us are wondering about the next year. Is there something that we didn’t do that we were supposed to do? Will a 2025 resolution solve all of our problems?

It is common to have a lot of unanswered question at the end of any chapter , be it the end of a year, the end of a career or of a relationships. Endings can be difficult or easy, liberating or agonizing, beautiful or disastrous. When we think of an end we often tend to associate negative feelings with it. Do endings have to be sad?

I don’t have the answer to this question but the idea of endings has come across my mind several weeks ago when I was thinking about the theme for this year’s book contest.

This years’s contest subject is BEREAVEMENT. I have dealt with the loss of my grandmother this year and it was the first time in my life when I did not know how to deal with it. A lot of unanswered questions are lingering. There is a mix of emotions during such a process, ranging from anger, guilt, remorse, sadness and confusion. I assume that with time the predominant feeling should be of peace. I am yet to reach that point.

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My request for this year’s participants in the Books and life contest is:

Write in the comments below about a novel, a memoir, a poem, a theater play, any literary piece of your choice, that helped you cope with emotional turmoil during a personal bereavement moment. Maybe you have lost a relative, maybe a friend or a pet. A loss is a loss as it signifies the end of someone’s existence in your life. Explain to me and to everyone reading you why that particular literary piece helped you during your loss and end your commentary with an advice, from your personal point of view, that could help someone who is going through bereavement right now. There is no limit in how long your post can be.

The contest ends on 22nd of December 2024. Winners will be announced on the 23rd of December 2024.

  1. First place wins: 120 Hive
  2. Second place wins: 80 Hive
  3. Third place wins: 50 Hive

I will give you my personal answer to the theme that I have suggested for this year. My pick is a book written by the romanian filmmaker Cristian Mungiu called “Tania Ionașcu, bunica mea. O biografie basarabeană” ( Tania Ionaşcu, my grandmother. A basarabian biography”). This book healed a part of me while I was reading it. As Cristian also had to deal with the loss of someone dear to him I was able to find coping mechanisms in his own story that would help me out in mine.

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Good luck to everyone!

Books and life Edition 1



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I lost my grandma in August this year too, I feel your pain. I don' know how I missed your post about it but hang in there, you are strong, Mary!

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Oh the month of August, same here! May God rest both of them in peace and help us cope with the loss as good as we can..

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A few months ago, this same year I went through a situation that affected me a lot, two friends died within 3 days of each other. I am a nurse and I had to take care of both of them in their last days, after their deaths I did not imagine how difficult it would be to continue my routine after losing them. It was scary, I felt so fragile and at the same time I felt guilty because I couldn't do anything to save them.

I was looking for books to cope with the losses and I found one with the title "La ridícula idea de no volver a verte" (The Ridiculous Idea of Never Seeing You Again). The book is by the author Rosa Montero published in 2013, this book won the Madrid critics award in that year.

In this book Rosa makes a comparison of what Marie Curie, Polish physicist and chemist, lived through when her husband died in an accident with the grief of her who lost her husband when she fought with a very strong cancer.

There is a paragraph that stayed in my memory, and helped me to respect my times and my emotions.

It happened to me that I took my grief as an illness that had to be cured as soon as possible. I think this is a common mistake, because in our society death is seen as an anomaly and bereavement as a pathology: "We constantly talk about avoidable deaths, as if death could be prevented rather than postponed".

Rosa was married to her husband for 21 years and although the fight against cancer was arduous, her husband didn't make it, but the pain she felt so strong turned him into art, since her book can make those of us who have gone through grief feel that it is normal to feel bad, that it is normal to relapse and cry for no apparent reason, although in these cases there are plenty of reasons.

And after reading about these great women who were not afraid to express what they felt, I can proudly say that although we see death very closely, there is something that it cannot take away from us, the pure and wonderful love that we had the privilege of feeling and we will continue to feel it even though our loved one is no longer here.

Here is another interesting and very true paragraph from the book

The loss of a loved one is such a crazy and senseless experience that it is incredible how much a VISA card with the name of your dead person written in relief can disturb and move you.


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Commentary written in Spanish translated by Deepl

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Thank you for sharing your story! I believe that your quote speaks the truth about our society where death is indeed seen as an anomaly.

The last quote touched me. For me it is very odd to still have her as a contact in my phone. I don't want to delete it yet it feels strange to still want to hold on.

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The truth is that there are things we do when we are grieving that make us feel strange or weird, however, everyone lives their grief in a different way. Only we ourselves know how much it hurts. That's why that book helped me because it was not only the story of one person's grief, it was two different people explaining that no matter how much you want to, you can never completely overcome the loss of someone you loved.

If keeping that number makes you feel a little less their absence or reminds you of the love they had for you, it's okay to keep it until you're ready. In the book Rosa mentions that there were moments when she wanted to keep her scent, the one she had left on her favorite armchair, that helped her to manage her pain.

It was a pleasure for me to participate in this contest, when you talk about what you feel you heal and although it doesn't stop hurting it gives you calm and relief.

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I believe that literature has a unique healing power, and sharing those experiences can be of great help to those going through similar situations. To those who are dealing with grief, I would say: there is no one right way to heal. Allow yourself to feel and remember, and seek solace in what you love most, whether through reading, writing or art. Peace will come in time. take heart in your contest! 🌟📚

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I am so sorry for your loss, death is something so painful and complicated that sometimes, words are too few to express it on the part of the one who consoles and on the part of the one who needs to be consoled. I send you a strong and friendly hug from a distance 🫂.

Wait for my participation, this is a sensitive, deep and beautiful subject worth talking about, bringing out and also comforting.

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