Should the government decide how many children we can have? My opinion
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I have been thinking for years that not everyone deserves to have children. First, I dare say that most of the world's parents are very young, even underage; this causes them to have very little experience, as they have not yet learned how to take care of themselves. Second, because, even if it is a person with some experience, not everyone is suitable. I am not saying this because I am, I am saying this because I am so aware that I am not.
What do I mean by being fit? I mean having the necessary qualities, such as love, generosity, selflessness, honesty, humility to recognize mistakes and correct oneself, and -although it seems silly to mention it, it is necessary- common sense.
But, the reality is, neither are we given a manual for raising children when we become parents, nor are the children of this generation growing up in a healthy environment and with what they really need, at least most of them.
Worse yet, in many places couples or single mothers -mostly- have one child after another, without any consideration to the reality that they do not have the economic and emotional resources to provide for them, which generates problems for the family, the community and even the country where they live.
Hence, in some countries it has been decided to limit the number of children a couple can have, thus controlling population growth for various purposes.
In the case of my country, Venezuela, to date no law has been decided to be implemented regarding this.
Regarding the question of whether the government should "meddle" in these matters or whether they have the right, in my opinion it is completely reasonable for the government to establish rules in this regard. Why?
First, obviously, because a ruler has the right to establish rules, especially if they can benefit in some way those who are governed. Second, because this particular issue is quite problematic here in Venezuela and in many Latin American countries; it is no secret that there is a big problem of teenagers getting pregnant and creating dysfunctional and impossible to cope with families for those involved.
In my opinion, it is not simply putting a limit on the number of children that will help solve this. There has to be equity, which is not the same as equality. Simply put: there should be an evaluation of the economic and psychological situation of each couple that intends to have children, and allow only those that meet certain parameters, ensuring that the children can enjoy the welfare they are entitled to from birth until they can take responsibility for themselves and become independent.
At least, that's what I think, what do you think?
Translated with DeepL
People who can’t take care of the child they should not get one. Like I have seen many being careless also there was a news recently that a mother went on vacation and left her baby at home. Which was really horrific occurrence.
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Yes, it is sad. Many people today have no natural affection even for their own family. Thanks for commenting!
We had a report of a mother who left her TWO children at home while she went on a cruise.
I think they were found in very bad condition, like she'd left food etc, but who was making them take care or themselves? No one apparently, they hadn't been taught that.
We have several generations now where the young people are smart, but don't KNOW HOW to do things other than look at their phones
I have no issues with Govt making rules and all,how ever, I think they should also express the full reasons why these rules are being made and not limit the scope of human existence with their law.
first I dont think the overpopulation is a problem is a well managed economy that know the value of every human life.
Moreso, proper management at the family and home level also pushes the fear of overpopulation away, hence the problem here may actually be ignorance.
Hello friend, thank you for your comment. I understand that you value human life, and I also have a deep respect for it. That is precisely why I think that even if there were no government intervention, it is difficult to give a single child everything he or she really needs to grow up happy and be a good person, let alone give it to several children. Besides, the truth is that most of us tend to pass on our traumas and emotional problems in one way or another to children, not many people recognize the importance of mental health and therapy. I believe that if we are going to give birth to children who will not be happy, it is better not to conceive them in the first place. It's our (parents') responsibility for all that, not the government.
That's precisely what I am also saying. If a law is gonna go out to state the number of kids to be had by a parent. Then that's good is they will also determine how much to spend on a child, and if those parents are qualified both mentally and adequately furnished to nourish their kids.
Like you said, it is better not to bring forth at all if you don't have plans to keep them. Parent and society which includes the Govt are all hands in hands in the training of a child.
If they don't have what it takes and they bring them here, will there be laws to charge such people.
From my part of the world I don't see how that is going to work.
However, my claim is, when it comes to over population, we need to actually balance it because it is a relative term. Overpopulation is relative to the resources available or something else that belongs to all.
Of course, my friend. And overpopulation is not the central issue here, because it's not the only thing that can influence the future of children.
In my country, at least, a child is unlikely to be taken away from an irresponsible parent, unless the parent seriously injures the child. Which is unfortunate, that it has to get to that point for society to react.
I think in this case where the main concern is when people, especially young ones, keep on reproducing yet not even knowing the full consequences or not having financial + emotional capacity to raise their children, the government should instead focus on strengthening the education system for these kinds of topics to raise more awareness. I think controlling the people’s family count is not a long term solution to the problem. But yes, I agree, parenthood is such a huge responsibility, and I commend those who are able to raise a beautiful and prosperous family. ❤️
Hi friend, thanks for commenting. I understand your position. In Venezuela, at least, awareness alone has not worked. I am surrounded by former classmates who had children as teenagers and several of them are not even with their original partner. So perhaps several measures would have to be implemented to solve this problem, including legal ones.
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STOPHi @dfreitesp, this is a wonderful, if dangerous topic. You said
In my high school/teenage years it was my opinion that if a person had some inherited disorder, or even a genetic predispostion to one (think Diabetes, obesity that runs in families, Down syndrome etc etc plus now we know about certain cancers that are inherited) why should any effort be spent curing those things? The cure is simple; don't have children to pass on the genes causing the problem.
Oh sure, do what can be done to make the sufferer comfortable and productive, but DON'T HAVE CHILDREN. Don't pass on the problem to another generation.
What you are pointing to is a very bad problem that is exposing the bad underside of humanity everywhere, children having children, the state having to support them, how many millions are moving North from Venezuela to my country in hopes of a better life, when all that is happening is my country is being overloaded.
MY life is far from as good right now as it was when I was a teenager. There are JUST TOO MANY MOUTHS to feed.
It is projected that Nigeria will become the most populous country in Africa within a decade. They have pretty good schools and support systems RIGHT NOW, but they also have sectarian violence and tribalism.
I often think the Chinese had it right for a while there, one family, one child
In the early 20th century in my country there was a movement called "eugenics" meaning only the most fit should have children,(at the time that meant the most white, healthy people, a very racist thing at the time)
I think that if the racism could be removed, it would be a good thing.
I am 69 yrs old, the youngest of TEN children, and I don't have any. Children that is.
I think I have a LOT of good stuff I should pass on: High intelligence, musical talent, compassion and all told pretty good health.
But I shall not, I think by now I am sterile anyway.
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Hi, thanks for the comment and support. ♥️
Unfortunately, it is very difficult for human laws to be accurate and perfectly fair and just, because our minds are not perfect.
Let's hope that there is hope that future generations will not live is such conditions.
In my opinion, parents should be the ones to decide if they want to have children or not. If the government must come in, that should be to educate young and unemployed people so as to avoid giving birth to children they are not emotionally and financially able to take care of. Personal thoughts, though...
Hi! Thank you for your comment and sharing your opinion.
I had commented before that I grew up seeing awareness campaigns about teen pregnancy, but the results have left much to be desired, as it is common here for girls to drop out of school to raise a child, sadly.
I think it is crucial to ensure that policies are fair and balanced. Your thoughts on the importance of thoughtful policy-making is really good.
Thank you for your comment.
Yes, many factors have to be taken into consideration to give equitable laws; fair.