Silly? It was worth the breakup

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Anything that's too good is suspicious, especially when we know many are mad and a few are roaming. Just be you and I'll be fine, if the "you" isn't madder than I. After my NYSC, I needed to be far from home for a reason so I traveled to zaria, the town I had schooled. There I made new friends and joined the youth fellowship. After a few months I met this lady who probably fell in love with me at first sight , we got closer and sooner than expected we started dating.

Everyone needs a good partner, probably someone who is respectful and agrees to one's demand, but everything that's too much often has pretense in it - So I think and that was the case of this lady. Everything I said was a yes to her, it was like the lady in the movie "coming to America" who barked at the prince's command. Seemed as if her goals and every one of her dreams deviated to pleasing me the moment we started to date. The question"what's new?" Often comes with the answer "my love for you ". I got tired of hearing that. Nothing ever mattered to her than loving me. At one point I had to ask her what her goals are in life and the shocking answer was "loving me more". It may feel like a good thing but who wants to marry a lady who doesn't have her own plans in life?

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Everything she ever did was pleasing me and went as far as meeting my friend to tell her things that pleased me because that's what she wanted to be doing. I know I have prayed for a lady that will love me, but not for a lady that will abandon herself because she wants to please me. I tried to engage her a few times to know what she thinks about a matter and her reply is often "anything I think is fine by her". No! I didn't pray for the kind of lady who believes I'm everything, I wanted someone who though loves me, loves herself and has dreams and opinions to contribute to matters.

I didn't believe her attitude was real, within me I felt there was a pretense because she kept talking about marriage, and I suspected she was doing all that so I can consider her as the perfect spouse to wife. Unfortunately this led to me breaking up the relationship with her, no offense, no quarrel, not for the reason of infidelity, or expensive lifestyle (beside she never asked of anything from me) but for two reasons, she was too good, which I found suspicious, and the fact that she talks too much. During a conversation she talks 98% and I do the 2%, bringing up matters that do not concern me and ones which I don't even want to hear. I just couldn't cope with that kind of energy. I wanted a lady who'll be real and she didn't prove to be, and a lady who talks 60% and I do the 40% , not one who doesn't get tired of talking. Hahahaha.


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But the way she claimed love for you is really creepy. Like who does that in this generation? Before she met you, didn't she have goals in life?

But shaa, love they say is blind. (I haven't seen her kind of love shaa😂)

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Toh, I wondered o. Myself wasn't comfortable with such kind of affection

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😂don't tell me that she wanted to suffocate you with love and you ran for dear life.

Your reasons are valid. She probably was pessed to get married, and you seemed to be perfect catch. Thinking of her person, based on your description, it would have been draining to be with her. How person go be "yes-girl?" No contrary opinions, no contributions. It's not adding up.

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Seriously, such kind of person will just frustrate ones life and I'll be more like the only one contributing in that relationship

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I didn't know love use to be too much until now, it's my first time actually reading such.

There are men who wouldn't mind taking up such woman and in the end, she becomes someone else after they tie the knot. Although it sounds silly but it's a good one.

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I just couldn't cope with such energy

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Hahahah, guy, na run u run so o, haha
Well this narrative appeared very interesting
In as much as I also will not be comfortable with such a lady, but I think you should have given her time and also tried her in other ways and know her truly and perhaps also I terrogate the people who know her background to know if that's actually her nature or a pretense

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It was too much guy. I was already feeling insecure. I didn't have the time to ask about her, but her attitude alone was something

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I understand bro
No yawa
But I hope she didn't feel so shattered

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She did , but it was safer than future implications

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I believe your reasons are valid.

In relationships, the two parties should be willing to communicate with each other, finding solutions to certain things.

She didn't prove herself to be one. When you need a solution to something, it's possible she'd not be able to help you out.

Your decision isn't silly at all.

#dreemerforlife

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Exactly my point.
Maybe at a point she thought such level of commitment will attract me, instead it pushes me away

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😂😂😂😂chaiii the lady wanted to suffocate you with love. No goals or plans, just loving our prophet Dwixer.

You were right to smell a rat, she was probably doing that so that after marriage, she will begin to show you shege raised to power promax. 😂😂😂😂

#dreemerforlife

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ThankGod I escaped it.
Used my prophetic oil to discern it

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Ahh, don't tell me she wanted to choke you with love 😂😂.
That's too much , I think you had a valid reason to break up with her. But did you ever try to talk to her about her attitude?
#dreemport

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No, I never did. I just felt it wasn't necessary.

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Yeah, I understand, coz you were already fed up with her

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