The role of genotype in shaping relationships
When it comes to relationships, we often focus on personalities, shared interests , and values as a foundation of a strong connection. With the recent complications in marriages due to blood incompatibility, it has shown that genotype and blood grouping also play a significant role in shaping a successful relationship. So among other factors, knowing one's genotype will help them make good decisions in choosing a life partner.
A friend of mine had done his marriage introduction when they both realized they were all carriers of "S". It was difficult for them to go their separate ways after the realization. They call each other at night to either cry or encourage themselves to take the risk and my young friend who was even a medical personnel almost succumbed to taking the risk with the hope that God will intervene. I understood his pain, sometimes it's difficult to cut off from someone whom they've shared their dreams and plans with and sometimes someone who had made them smile over the years. At one point my friend told me He wouldn't get married in life if he didn't marry this particular lady. I knew this statement was out of emotion. It often feels as if there's no one else who can fill the space and this is how powerful love can be. Luckily, time healed them and they were able to find love again.
Contrary to what the medical friend of mine did. My childhood friend happened to be in the same situation. He had always believed he was an "AA" because his both parents claimed to be "AA" even though there was nothing like blood test in their era. So he entered a relationship with such an assurance until a few months to his wedding when the church asked them to go take the test. To his surprise he was an "AS" and his girlfriend too was an "AS". It seemed as if the love had gone far, to a point where it was unbreakable, because they went ahead with the marriage regardless of the thousand and one talks I gave him. His parents were not knowledgeable about the implications of incompatible genotype, so didn't know the implications of what their child's decision.
My advise
One thing I told my friend was "Love Isn't enough when peace is absent. The life of a child matters too and it's wickedness to bring a child to the world to suffer in the name of love". Sometimes it's not about us, it's about the impact one's action will have. Love isn't greed, even the bible says love does not rejoice over evil and when we start to think about "us" alone, then it's no longer love but greed.
And for people who had taken the bold step to end the relationship. I will say they've taken the best decision, because at the end, regrets often follow if God doesn't intervene. There's always someone who fits in our values and personality traits. All we have to do is allow time to heal us just as it did with my friend from the first example and for those who are yet to enter a relationship or yet to take things seriously, just before things get too intimate, it's safer to know your genotype and blood group to avoid a hurtful scenario.
This is in response to the Hive naija contest on medical compatibility. The contest is opened to all
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I had no idea such a process existed. It sounds much like a plot point for a film such as Gattacca.
It took me a little while to find an article which provides more information. other readers can check it out here
As a suggestion, with an article like this, it's worth explaining terms explicitely so people who aren't familiar with the situation are able to fully grasp the thrust of what you're saying.
That's true, I wrote that with the assumption that everyone knows about genotype.
Noted Incase of next time
Specifically the info I needed was on why having it done is such a crucial part of your culture.
When I was growing up we had a friend who died from sickle cell anemia so I'm familiar with the condition, but was not aware of how pernicious it was in some peoples.
It's not actually tag to culture. It's more of a precaution from bearing children with the "sickle cell" disease. It's more medically inclined than cultural consideration
sure, but it's not something which is regular in many places.
I was happy to learn about it, and may well do more research, but you should know that such consideration is very much not part of normal dating discourse in many parts of the world.
That's true. Maybe in areas where such knowledge is little
This whole issue of blood group and all of that before marriage is really a serious issue. But I feel it's just very simple to resolve. It would be great that partners do the needful in time before their love grows into something too deep.
Yeah, with an era like this , people should be better informed
It's not all about us Indeed and yes, love isn't greed. The thing is that for people who doesn't care about the unborn children and go ahead with such marriage, their finances and emotions will suffer the consequences and not only the SS child they will bring into the world to suffer
That's true, I pray often for this friend of mine, because I know his suffering will affect everyone including me
I love the conclusion of it. Time will heal, but to avoid stories that touch the soul, maybe its best too always confirm first. Like the second couple in your examples, they were not strong or rational enough to let go
Sometimes I wonder how people get to a point in a relationship where they see the other as their oxygen. That was his case
People wouldn't understand this phrase "Love Isn't enough when peace is absent" untill they get married and are faced with different challenges. Not everything is village people, somethings are ignorance and lack of common sense.
That's true, sometimes our negligence contributes to what we suffer atimes
Sure