Thinker's corner: Don't tell me what to do
We are watchmen at a certain point and this is because of the experience one has gained by advantage of age. Some years ago in school, I came across a young lady who was in an unhealthy relationship. She was young and naive, so she was easily deceived with enticing words to cover up for the wrong she saw. She was gradually drowning in the mud but her infatuation couldn't let her see the sinking sand. I didn't want her to go down that lane. I've heard of people who had ignored certain red signs and ended up regretting it, particularly with the ladies who have the idea of "changing the guy".
One evening, I called for her and tried to clarify her about the few concepts of love that I know with true stories of people who made that same mistake she was making and is regretting. Prior to this time, I learned a few brothers who cared about her had tried to advise her and she feels no one can tell her what to do or how to go about with her life. It didn't change with me, she told me the status of her parents and how even her mum hadn't said anything about it. At some point she helped me complete the statements I was about to say and tried to quote some scriptures for me as to why her decision was not bad. I knew I wasn't going to win, she knew more than I did even though she looked younger.
I told myself to step back. If she knew what I was going to tell her, and her parents know about her unhealthy relationship and are fine with it, then who am I to say a thing. I left her to her decision and pride and just prayed for God to help her realize. I met her late last year and noticed she was a changed person, no more in that relationship and is more careful with who she hangs out with. I believe experience spoke for her.
I'm just short of words, imagine her parents encouraging her living such lifestyle without cautioning her. It's disheartening to know that some parents are actually the ones pushing their children into such behaviors. What a pity.
I can only imagine the experiences she had that later made her change.
That's why the bible says when the foundation is faulty, what can the righteous do. I just had to stay away knowing the cause is from the root.
Myself wondered what happened but I didn't bother to ask
She needed to go through that experience herself since she wasn't interested in listening to people's advice. Of course, the easy approach would have been for her to listen and learn from other people's experience, but there always comes a time when someone just has to go through an experience herself.
She's still alive with so much practical lessons learnt. I hope she makes better decision on the long run.
I believe the Experience was tough, she had changed completely
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STOPLike it has been said, "Experience is the best teacher". Life needs to teach some people for them to move forward in life. And, it I sad she had to go through that when she had people who were there to advise her.
However, she learned and changed, and that's very good.
It's good she changed when it wasn't too late
For so many people, experience is the only thing that can teach them. ignoring red flags is something I will never do in my relationship, once I start seeing some funny moves, I walk out, I don't have heart for anyone to break.
I am so happy that the lady learned for herself, atleast she has a message to give to others 😂
#dreemport
She ignored the red flag and learned the hard way
Hehehe, she was too careless, a relationship expert like you will give her counsel and she neglected it. Does she know your experience on relationships? 💃💃
Hahaha. Abeg emreal no make me laugh.
Hahaha... Happy Sunday boss