Where Apology Is not necessary
Everyone is responsible for their actions and the things they say. Oftentimes we tell younger ones to apologize as a sign of humility and true repentance and this has become a culture- Apologizing for whatever we say or do that hurts another. But then, apologizing for everything we say or do sometimes devalue the messages we pass. There are times I have been hurt by what my friends told me. On a second thought I realized they were telling the truth. If they had apologized, I may not have felt the weight of the message like I did pondering over their words. However, it's good to apologize, but in a scenario where apologizing may dim the light of the message, then it should be withdrawn.
There are a few sceneries in Which I wouldn't apologize and these are: a scenario when I'm saying the truth, especially when the fellow is surrounded by people who aren't concerned about the individual to tell him when he's heading to destruction, when apologizing would make jest of the message I want him to digest, and when I know apologizing wouldn't change a thing. I'll explain each of them briefly.
We apologize because we realize we are wrong and secondly because we want peace. But oftentimes I have realized people don't differentiate between when you're right or wrong, especially when one apologizes for everything. So they demand an apology at all times believing you are the person at fault. This misconception can be corrected if you apologize when you're wrong only.
Sometimes apologizing can suppress the essence of what you say or do. Let's imagine you tell someone "you have pride" and the fellow picks an offense. You were right about what you said and probably wanted him to realize he has pride. Apologizing to him can make him believe you were rude to him while pushing away the message you expected him to get. If the message to be passed can be altered with an apology, I'd rather not apologize.
I know I'm right, but I also want peace. However, there are individuals who are bent on doing what they are set to do whether with an apology or not. In such a scenario, I'll hold my apology and allow the individual to get the message in whatever way they can.
Those are legit scenarios. The one about saying the truth about something and going ahead to apologize "just for Peace to reign" is something I don't understand.
Some people have refused to change for good because they surround themselves with people who do not call them out when they do something wrong.
I don't hold back from dishing out sincere apologies when I'm wrong. However, if I didn't do anything wrong, I stand on what I've said and no one is getting an apology out of me. Haha.
Thanks for joining us on this edition of the challenge.
Maybe people got the "peace to reign" from the Bible verse that encourages peace with all men. But like you said, if you're right, let your words stand
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Thanks for sharing bro. You're right, the fact someone saying the truth and still went ahead and apologized, isn't a good thing. They'll end up taking the person for granted
#dreemerforlife
Most often the message is defeated
Some people just apologize for peace seek.
They know the apology is not necessary but just have to do it anyway.
You outlined it all.
Nice one dear.
Yeah, but most often the apology breaks the power of the message
That's it.
I like the "When apology would make jest of the message"
That's what most of us do which ends up devaluing the message we are trying to pass across
Yeah, it happens
You are right. When we apologise when the truth is said, the person told won't receive the message and would feel that they are right.
However, the moment they ponder on what has been said by the other party and self-reflect on their actions, they will learn, and learning is necessary.
Learning is indeed necessary