Ladies of hive Community Contest #145

Hello beautiful #Ladiesofhive,how is your week going?, mine has been wonderful and I pray it ends well for all of us. @merit.ahama has blessed us with this cool topics and I would love to attempt the two.

1️⃣ Becoming a teen, becoming an adult, turning 60...Share a memory of you from any of those times.

While growing up I used to be so eager to become an adult 😁, after growing into that I realized I am now responsible for all my actions and the choices I make.

After NYSC(National Youth Service Corps) , I had to stay home for months pondering so hard about what next to do, Is this what adulthood is all about?? It was mixed feelings with lot of confusion, I could remember my dad telling me I cannot stay at home everyday. I should get something doing. I no longer have to depend so much on everyone, he said I should work on having a handwork too so I won't become a liability in future.

One day my mum met a long time family friend in the market and she discussed with her about how I needed a job so badly, she works in a school and they were on holiday then. I submitted my CV the first week of their resumption and I was employed. The experience was strange, it was my first time job to earn a salary but I got used to it. It dawned on me that I needed to work for earnings. Adulthood is fun and life can be a little bit tricky sometimes, we just have to keep pushing.

2️⃣ Share your thoughts on women and their finances in a relationship or marriage, is it — or is it not — right to share the details of your finances with your spouse

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I don't see anything bad in spouses sharing their finances with one another. Money is very important, it sorts out so many of our needs.As long as there is true love and trust, being transparent to one another is key. Opening up about what I earn is a good idea, I have nothing to hide, following the examples of my parents, my dad knows how much my mum earns and my mum knows how much he earns too. This they use to pull resources together, so that the burden will not be on one person.

Everything is based on communication, some women earn higher than their spouse and they feel if he knows he might feel threatened or that the responsibility will be on them, due to what they have heard or seen happen to women in their shoes.

What works for everyone differs, having a joint account for the management of the home, trying a mix of the two, like joint account for paying mutual bills such as travelling for vacation, fun and entertainment, school fees(if a child/children is already involved) this account can be funded 50/50 or as agreed by both of them, while separate account will be for their own additional benefits. Either of the two that works, I believe every details should be known, nothing hidden to allow the relationship/marriage sail successfully. Like I said earlier communication is very important, you can't make decisions without involving your spouse, it takes two to tango in achieving positive goals.

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