How I Navigate Fatigue and Find Balance as a Woman #178

Hello to all wonderful and beautiful ladies of Hive. This week is another epic contest on how I navigate my physical, emotional and mental strength after excessive fatigue.

Excessive fatigue is what makes so many women look older than their age because they over work their body in the name of balancing all schedules. But I don't do that, I employ more hands if I find out activities are much for me to handle alone.

Firstly In my understanding, I will define what fatigue means. Fatigue refers to tiredness. When it's excessive then it's of high risk to permit the body function during that time. Working under excessive fatigue is never an advisable option for a woman because it impact your physical, mental and emotional health.

I have tried that when I gave birth to my first child. It wasn't an easy road. Taking care of the kids and also going for work, going back to pick the kids from school before thinking of what to cook for the next day, are things I couldn't just cope with.

I never realized that it's quite dangerous to operate in such way until when my hubby told me in an video call that I'm starting to look older than my age. Although he resides far away due to the nature of his job. Each day of trying to balance my schedule, I usually experience severe headache during sleep hours and drugs don't seem to cure them.

How I was Able to Handle Activities

I was able to relive myself of some duties. My friends suggested I go get a house aid to help me with chores at home but the fee attached wasn't something I could be able to pay and take care of some bills at home. I then decided to bring my Junior sister, the last daughter of my dad so she could come stay with me.

The relevance of this contest could be applicable to women with children. For single ladies, they may not really have much of schedules such as similar to nursing mum's. You just have to look after yourself and that of the child before you can take on the house chores.

I never thought of it as an option because the distance we both live are very far away. I base in the east and she base in the north. I had to source out transportation for her to come stay with me for the main time while she is preparing for her exams. This strategy has been useful to me because she is able to handle the house chores such as cooking and also picking up my son from school. But I do pay her some stipends though but she has really been helpful.

I am now left with going for work and handling other task that my kid Sis won't be able to handle. One of the major challenge is cooking. So I had to do my cooking during the weekend and will cook meals such as stew, and soup which may carry though out the week. As opposed to previous when I was handling it all alone. I don't usually find time to cook because before I come back home it may have turn sour.

In order to protect my mental health and physical well being I have decided to split the task I handle on a daily basis with my Junior sister whilst I handle the major ones alongside with my job. I don't stress myself to the point of been excessively tired. If there are activities I can handle for that day which I'm not able to look into, I will forward them for the next day.

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As regarding the phrase "Family comes first" I don't agree with it as I give priority to whatever is important. If there is an issue that warrants care for the family, it's usual to come first. But before I do that I have to weigh it on a scale of preference to know which comes first
This doesn't mean I am not in good terms with my family but I'm just my top priority.

An incident happened sometime ago, during the last Christmas in 2023, I travelled back home and we cooked celebration meal although there was no drink to compliment it. During that time one of my friend was seriously ill. So instead of prioritizing drinks over health, I choose to assist her with money to take care of her health while we just celebrate the Christmas without drink. So it really depends on how significant an issue is before I can decide to choose family over anything.

At this point I appreciate your time reading through my entry. God bless you, do have a nice week.

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