Trusting My Process

I entered 2025 with more than just a plan. More than just the regular goals I’d usually set at the beginning of this year. This year felt different somehow. Maybe it’s because unlike other years, I wasn’t so hyped about this year. I approached it with deliberateness. I think starting from December, I mapped out how I wanted my year to be with goals, sub-goals, points and sub points. It meant a lot to me to be more put together and intentional this year instead of the other years where I merely threw it all to the wind and hoped for the best.

The first thought I had towards progressing this year centred on the word, passion. I thought to myself about all the things I achieved in the past because I dared to be passionate and all the things I missed because of the lack thereof, and acquiesced that to get all the goals I had put in place up to par, I just needed to be more passionate.

Genuinely cultivate the art of being intentional about the things I’d listed. I thought to myself saying, “Tessa, none of these things were picked out for you. You picked them because you wanted to achieve them. So, why can’t you be more passionate about them?”

I had two issues, though.

I procrastinate a lot and I lose interest in things, people and situations easily. I don’t know which is worse but it’s something I’ve struggled with for years. These are challenges that I know have taken quite a lot of things from me, and I do wish that admitting to this meant that there would be an immediate switch. Sadly, that was not the case. To progress this year, I knew that these two would be my biggest road blocks to bringing to fruition all my carefully coveted goals.

The steps I took towards progressing in 2025 were putting these as my primary goals even before my actual goals. I knew progressing in them would mean progressing with my laid down goals. So, I tackled them first. It’s funny but when I was writing down my goals for the year, I set tackling procrastination as one of them and one of my hot takes to doing so was reminding myself of how much of a disappointment I’d be to myself if I let go of that singular moment I could have used to achieve a task, leaving me with a spare moment to achieve something else.

I wrote it in a way that was quirky but firm and moat of all, sure to pass the message and get me back on my feet.

On the other hand, I wasn’t sure how to tackle my other problem of losing interest easily. I figured that I would only lose interest easily if something wasn’t right for me. Or if it didn’t add as much value as it’s supposed to. But I thought of the other things. The things I’d begin with passion and then leave halfway, not because I lost interest but I simply lack the motivation.

This year, in my books is not about the goal in itself but the process of getting there. I’m eager to see if my laid down steps to getting my goals were actually on point. I want to see the steps I’ll take and if at all the things I have done, I am doing and yet to do would be pivotal to my success. It’s all talk. But I believe in trusting not the process but my process. I’m not rooting for fate but believing with faith that the steps I take would land me somewhere I would be proud of by the end of the year.

Successful women understand that perfection isn’t the goal — progress is. What steps are you personally taking to progress in 2025? Describe the situation, reasoning, and how you intend to set plans into motion.

Happy the Ladies of Hive community brought this amazing question and I hope what I have to share in the end will be worthwhile for all the amazing ladies on this platform.

Jhymi🖤

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