ARE YOU HAPPY?
When I saw the amazing prompts of the week, especially this one about happiness I had to ask myself a question I wish everyone reading this post would ask themselves. ” ARE YOU TRULY HAPPY?” This is not just a case of smiling or laughing, it's a state of joy and peace of mind. When I look at it, I see that happiness comes in one way, but the state of happiness is sustained in different ways. I am happy today and sad tomorrow because of different situations that do not just appeal to how I feel, but appeal to my state of mind. In a nutshell, I will say right now I am not happy.
But I used to be happy, I mean I can remember living the four walls of the higher institution like it was yesterday, I was so happy that despite everything I had been through, I made it out in one piece. But where is all that joy today? I will say it's still there because at least when I remember it the feeling alone is fulfilling. But then again I look at the things going on around me today and the things I wish to achieve, I look at the things I've failed in recently and I'm not happy. Yesterday's happiness is never enough for today's joy. And yesterday's sorrow is nothing compared to tomorrow's happiness. This is a constant I have seen in life while I remember the great memories but do not dwell on them to survive.
I've seen people who dwell in the past too much and how they journey with the sorrow they hold on to. A very close friend of mine is like that. She had a rough childhood, although not rougher than mine lol, but rough enough for a lady. The trauma of her childhood still hunts her to date. It took me time but I later saw it was what turned her into an angry person. Even though some want to show her love, she prefers being angry. She told me she wanted to stop being angry but didn't know how, so the first thing I told her was to heal from her past and let go. It's not been easy, but she's a better person today because she's learning to truly heal.
Leaving the past behind can be hard for some people, but for me what's hard is living in the present, I always want to stay in the moment, which is not easy at all. but since happiness is a journey, I decided I would never dwell in the past but look for happiness by making others happy. Spreading love and happiness and seeing others accept it makes me happy, it makes me feel I have achieved something that can never be bought with money and I tell you that is the best feeling in the world. but then again I need to do more of it so I can continue to be happy. If I stop I will only be happy about the past, and become sad about the present and future.
THIS IS MY RESPONSE TO HIVE GHANA PROMPT FOR THE WEEK.
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For some reason anything I see your post I just know there’s going to be a little part about life where you suffered…this man😂😂😂😂
Anyway I’m surprised it’s hard for you to live in the present and the moment
I wonder what makes it hard
Happiness might as well be state of mind, something that comes after we've made peace with ourselves.
The instance you gave of your female friend who is just never happy goes a long way validate the fact she hasn't made peace with her inner person and until she does, no one, not even an inspirational book or a motivational quote can erase her sad feeling.
I enjoyed your write-up ✨
I'm glad you enjoyed reading. Yes I had to make her know that she needed to make peace with herself. It's all part of the healing process
The truth is we will never find happiness if we still dwell in the past that has made us feel hurt. Though it isn't easy but it's important for one to truly heal and focus on the present as this only brings happiness when you attach yourself with the current achievements one achieves.
I popped in here through #dreemport
Yeah you are very correct, looking forward is the only way to move forward
True happiness is necessary but sometimes hard to come by. The indefinite happiness comes only when we behold the face of God.
However, we can be happy people if we want, it's a matter letting yourself go of some certain baggage
I love this man, you dey inspire well
I appreciate your kind comment. And you have spoken well, we need to let go of some things if we must move on in life
Many people are sad today because they don't know how to let go of their past traumatic experiences, I hope that your friend learns how to let go in other to heal and find happiness.
#dreemerforlife
Yeah that's very correct, it's what I keep telling her every day