HOW HARD CAN IT BE

If you follow up with my blogs very well you should know by now my thoughts about family and how much I hold family in high esteem. You should also know by now how much I look forward to being a parent one day. I've talked about how I try to learn parenting from taking care of the kids around me, like my siblings who I'm way older than. I'm not an outspokenly playful person, but I try to be someone that can offer comfort when reached out to. Although people say I look not approachable from afar, I don't know why or how to let them know I'm not as serious as I look and that I'm more shy than serious, but I try to work on it every day so that kids can start finding me approachable too😂.

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As a guy I've also been told that I scold people like they were kids especially when I open my mouth to talk. Yeah, I don't usually open my mouth to talk LOL. The reason why is that I don't often like to regret the words I say, nor do I want to say something out of anger and stick by it because I hold my words very strongly. I think this is one area of discipline my kids are really going to get. They would know that once their father has said he's going to do something, don't bother begging because it would be useless. I think I can be very creative in choosing punishments. I might not flog like my parents did to me growing up, but by the time I'm done with you, you would wish I flogged you instead.

When it comes to discipline, you can always count on me to give you what you deserve and that also means not giving you what you expect. My kid could do something really bad and I just look at them with a smile. But in that smile, you would pray I flog you as what you would be losing would be so painful to you and you will know that it was all your fault. But then again, as harsh as I sound, I don't discipline all the time. This is because I discipline more when an intent is clear. Actions don't upset me, the intent that brought about the action is what I'm usually interested in and hope to change. When I discipline it's because I want to see an overall result that would begin imminently.

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The holy book says foolishness is bound in the heart of a child, but the rod of correction drives it away. The idea is to drive it away and not to punish the child. For this I might even have to create systems for my children if I want to stop any bad habits. I would discipline them so much that it would be like a scar in their minds. If for example I see my child making a habit of lying. Instead of flogging that child I could tell them something that's not true about something that they love and leave them to think it is the truth. For example if they love gadgets, I could plan with my wife to set them up, do something bad and blame it on them for a week. Then ask them how they felt when they were lied on… The hurt they would feel from such actions would be more than what any Cain would do and they would have learned to hate something that had hurt them… I'm not saying I would do this though, it's just an example… 😂

THIS IS MY RESPONSE TO HIVE LEARNER'S PROMPT FOR WEEK 140 EPISODE 3