RED-FLAGS

Relationships can be dynamic with no one way that actually works. What works for Peter and Joy might not work for Paul and Grace because both couples are four different individuals from four different backgrounds coming together to make something work out of life. This is the reason why I filter relationship advice to the bare minimum. When it comes to the issue of relationships, everyone has something to say, everyone thinks their strategy works until it's been tested and fails. And if it should work, there is always pride in it. But then again, I think relationships that last isn't just about how far, but how well. This is because it's no news that a lot of people are suffering yet smiling and would never want to agree that they are in a toxic relationship.

It's easy however to judge a relationship from what you see going on, only those in it have the full picture of what is really going on. I've had some really bad experiences in the past, and these experiences have opened my eyes to some few things I don’t want in a relationship. In my last relationship that broke, I ended it even though I was heartbroken. I ended it because I saw some traits in her that I was already familiar with. These were traits that although were very minimal, prompted me to ask questions that made the relationship final break. These weren't questions I would ask on a normal day, but seeing these traits, I saw a red flag and knowing my past experiences, I acted on it which revealed the true color of the lady in question.

One day she said she was coming over to my place to visit, but cancelled at the last minute. It was the fourth time she was doing so and although I never saw anything to it in the beginning, that action reminded me of how I discovered two of my ex's were hiding things from me. So I decided to act on instinct and began to reflect on our relationship and that was when I noticed there was a red flag which was the fact that I was the only one giving time and attention to the relationship. It made me see that she hardly did anything for me and so I went further to start asking her to do things for me intentionally. I stopped calling and she went more than three days before realizing that we haven't spoken to each other. I discovered she wasn't interested in the things that concerned me and when I investigated I discovered she was in love with another and was only using me to pass time. I was heartbroken, but knew very well to end the relationship before it became worse.

THIS IS MY ENTRY INTO THE HIVE REACHOUT CONTEST