WHY DO MOTHERS ALWAYS DO THIS
Growing up back in the day, especially as teenagers, there were things common among a lot of mothers. For some strange reason my mum has stopped doing it, but then she would do it without looking back and it hurts like hell. My siblings still complain that she does it to them, especially my teenage brother and younger sister who my mum doesn't slack on having it hot with time. Sometimes I like to think she enjoys it, other times I just wonder why. There was a time I was in both their shoes and menh… it was really bad. On several occasions I would wonder if she hated me, built up a lot of rage within me until the day it burst open and everyone thought I was some kind of monster.
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Talking me down and trying to guilt trip me hasn't always been my strong suit, at first it got to me, but after a time it stopped appealing to me. I stopped thinking about what others think about me and cared less the manner they said it because my mum is one to always find faults and guilt trip you into seeing faults in yourself that weren't there. Especially in times she knows deep down she did something wrong but isn't ready to admit that she did it because it would make her feel she can no longer correct or control you. Today if I do something wrong and I know I did I just apologize on the spot and try to make up for it. But if I'm sure I didn't and I see she's ranting I just look at her with a smile and not take whatever she's saying to heart.
The last time she chose to be unapologetic to me that broke the Camel's back was when I was still staying with my parents within the years I dropped out of school. Despite the fact that she always had half my salary (despite how small it was) and I was always trying to manage what was Left to save up for going to school and getting a new laptop plus my transportation and feeding at work was all covered in one half of my salary. It wasn't enough for her and the day I got a laptop for myself, although it was fairly fairly used, I was expecting my mum of all people to be happy for me. But in truth she wasn't. She had spent the money I gave her that month on something nobody knew.
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It was obviously for something religious and knowing my kind of person to be always compassionate and understanding, she tried to guilt trip me into thinking I was reckless with my money and never had the family in mind. She was ranting about this with every member of the family gathered except my dad, and to be honest I couldn't believe what I was hearing from her mouth. She made it seem like I was irresponsible and I was using the laptop I got to make them think I was. And that was when I had it with her. I couldn't say much because when I tried to speak, it was so painful coming from my mum that tears started rolling down and it was at that moment everyone knew she messed up. She tried to make it up to me with food and all, but I didn't eat and left home shortly after. To date we never talked about it and to be honest I don't want to hear anything about it
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Yeah. I know this all too well. My mom as loving as she is has said nasty things to me that has left me in a state of depression.
Ummm mothers can be something atimes
Truth to be told every one does face this kind of things from our parents and it really devastating.
I can remember while growing, I had everything I want but you don't have freedom.
You can't relate to even your peers
Always in doors.
Those days was really annoying seriously.
Hehe... They tried that thing with me, and what they were preventing still happened
Mom can be really funny and yeah, they always see us as a child no matter how grown we are. It's a good thing she came to realise that she was wrong but expecting an apology is like searching for a river in the desert.
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I don't know why they are just like that 😂
Emotional one👌.
Made me to remember when I bought phone while at home. Omo! I was rubbished by my mom because according to her, I wasted the money I used almost 15 days of nonstop working, to buy phone 😂
I can imagine the feeling... Although it's now in the past
Mothers can be super annoying sometimes. Honestly, it's something most kids go through at the hands of their parents. I honestly don't blame them because you can't give what you don't have. But thank God for this new generation, at least we know better and won't pass on the same attitude and treatments our parents gave to us to.
Let's do better as parents ❤️✨
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I'm not so sure about that. Many of us might turn out worse
Nobody is perfect; some might just repeat the same circle while some will learn, and because of how bad it impacted their life, they wouldn't want to pass it down to the next generation. For example, You! I'm sure you would try your best not to make your kids feel the way your parents made you feel