Do you respond better to external motivation or are you self-motivated?/WEEK 198

Good evening hivers, I hope your week has been very productive and peaceful... Among all the questions proposed by our friend @galenkp I found very interesting the one I answer below... Let's start!

Do you respond better to external motivation or are you self-motivated?

To answer this question I must confess that I have gone through different stages, in the past when I was a teenager I needed external motivation to feel happy, I always sought the company of my friends to feel complete, because when I was alone I felt incomplete, I felt the need to rely on family and friends to feel safe in my space. With time I understood that I had to work on this aspect, maturity made me understand that my attitude only reflected insecurity and fear. When I set out to change and correct a behavior that I consider wrong, I focus completely and work with a lot of discipline and dedication, I usually resort to all the tools I consider necessary to achieve the goal that will lead me to the well-being I wish to achieve. Many years ago I came to the conclusion that I no longer need any external motivation to feel full, confident and happy. I understood that there is no better company than enjoying my solitude, I learned to pamper myself from self-love, because if I do not do it in this life then there will not be another opportunity. My insecurities of the past disappeared completely, many times I sit in a place to have a snack alone, without feeling the shyness that accompanied me. I think if you need an external motivation to feel well being then you are not a free person, because true freedom is to enjoy your space regardless of whether you are alone or if there are people around you, the real motivation dwells within us, it is in us to discover that space, when you find it and make it conscious then you will not need anything external to feel full, safe and happy. With this I do not mean that I am a lonely person, because I enjoy being surrounded by my family and good friends, but I am a person who enjoys solitude, because there is a big difference between feeling lonely and enjoying your company alone.

Knowing ourselves makes us understand the true language of each space of our body and the real essence of our mind and soul, this knowledge will make us truly free and safe in all aspects of our life.