Parenting is not for the weak.

Hello, everyone.

I welcome you to my blog. The effect of either good parenting or bad parenting cannot be hidden in the life of a child. Charity, they say, begins at home; therefore, whatever the child learns at home is what they offer to society at large. A parent's duty is to mold their child into the type of person they want them to be. Some parents fail to do so, and the effect does not end in their houses but also affects society.

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Some parents fail to carry out their duties of putting their child on the right track, and they blame it on their jobs or claim to be too busy, forgetting the fact that these kids are the ones that would take care of them at old age. I have seen situations where both parents claim to be too busy and kids are allowed to live life the way it pleases them. When they go off track, there's no one to put them back on track, and when they do wrong, there's no one to correct them. If you know you are too busy, then there's no need to bring a child into this world.

While growing up, my dad was a military man and was hardly around, but whenever he was around, he was there to discipline. He showed us love beyond our expectations but was way too strict, so strict that even to this day we still fear him because he has instilled that fear in us. For that reason, our communication with him is shallow, and now he always says he wants us to be like friends, but we find it very difficult to adapt to the changes. This made me agree with the saying from the Bible, "train up your child in the way they should grow, and when they are old they will never depart from it.

On the other hand, from my mom's end, it was all love and affection; she pampered us like eggs and gave us all the attention we needed, but that does not mean she spared the rod. She tries to use words to get us back on track whenever we go off track, but if you fail to get back on track after words are used, then be ready to face the iron lady 😂 My mom hardly punish us because she prefers using advices and the Bible to put us back on track, but when she does, it's hell on earth. Both parents molded us into what we are today, and we are forever grateful.

• I will not be a strict Father: My dad now wants us to be open to him the way we are with our mom, but we still find it difficult to even ask him for a favor and not talk more of being open to him. Sometimes I feel for him, but you cannot blame us; he was a disciplinarian, and he really exercised that power over us. It helped shape us into a better version of ourselves, but it still had its disadvantages.

• A role model for my kids: Many fail to understand that from the day you bring a child into this world, everything about you changes, both your likes and dislikes, all because you now have someone looking up to you. Someone who will follow your footsteps, and anywhere you miss it, they miss it as well.

• A fun filled home: A home where everyone is free and can tease each other and play games with each other. In other words, I will like to be friends with my kids, and that way we can communicate better while having fun.

Thanks for reading my post.