IS SORRY SO HEAVY A WORD TO SAY?

African parents, especially Nigerian parents, find it very hard to say sorry to their kids, which I find appalling. As a parent you did something to your child and it is wrong of which you are supposed to say sorry but know, they will come with guilt tripping especially mothers

I carried you in my womb for nine months, I can't say sorry, I gave birth to you not the other way round.

Most times in my mind I will just be thinking, will it kill you to say it, will it kill you to say “I AM SORRY” ? Instead they come with a coping mechanism called

GUILT TRIPPING

I'm not saying all Nigerian parents do this, there are parents who tell their children sorry when they feel they are wrong, not even when they are wrong but when they “feel” they are wrong. I would like to say count my parents out of this category, I will tell you why.

Have you ever experienced this situation? Where your mum will ask you to get something from her room and when you get there it is not there, you come back to complain that it is not there and she sends you back with a warning that if she comes and checks that place and she sees it she's going to beat you. If you are on this table we have a meeting. Something happened one time where my mum asked me to get her glasses for her from the room then when she was using glasses and I ran quickly to her room to get the glasses cause I'm watching a cartoon and I don't want to miss any scene (don't mind me I watch cartoons even till date) I quickly rushed back and told her I didn't see the glasses she asked me to bring. I repeated this exercise twice and the last time I received a very hot slap.

She followed me to her room we both checked round her room not without her shouting that she's sure the reason I didn't see her glasses is because my mind was in the cartoon I was watching at that time. We continued searching and could not find her glasses, my mummy went back to sit down but this time on another sofa and found her glasses there 😠😡. I was angry and pissed 😤 because I missed my favorite cartoon of course after receiving a very hot slap. I was looking at her she was looking at me and she said

Oh ok I didn't know it was here I thought I left it in my room on the bed.

I was earnestly waiting for her to say sorry but she didn't and she went on with her business 😭😭. In my mind “ will it kill you mummy to say sorry” I felt really bad that day.
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