No to a long distance relationship.
Hello Hive Ghana community it's another great week and amazing topics for the week.
I will like to share my thoughts with you by answering one of the questions which is
Are you one to be in a long distance relationship or you are totally against it?
I believe alot of people are wired differently and it affects things they can tolerate,things they can do,their capacity and ability.
Therefore long distance relationship has a lot to do with the individuals that are in the relationship.
Because they have a major role to play for the effectiveness of the relationship.
Long distance relationship isn't a child's play,it involves alot of hardwork, constant commitment, regular communication and a high level of trust.
As for me if am given a choice,i would say no to a long distance relationship
because availability is very important in any relationship, especially physically and emotionally .
Therefore I would say that a long distance relationship is not good for me me because of the following reasons
Communication limitations: In long distance relationship communication may be hard,and where there's no strong communication, there Will be misunderstanding, accusations,and distrust and isolation will sets in which will increase the likelihood of separation.
Unvailability : unavailability creates frustrations in any relationship
it's frustrating when your partner isn't there to share with you in your joy,and when your partner isn't there to comfort you through the storms.
Lack of bond : It's may be hard to bond with someone who is not physically present with you,engaging in activities together strengthen the bond in any relationship and it's sometimes hard to bond well in a long distance relationship.
Lack of physical intimacy /quality time: creating quality time in a relationship strengthens the bond of the relationship
it helps to promote and strengthen friendship,it helps the partner to pay close attention to each other
Lack of fun: lack of fun in a relationship makes the relationship to be boring and a boring relationship can't last.
Expensive: things may get a little bit stretchy in long distance relationship, having a constant and regular communication requires money to keep in touch.
Partners will have to spend more to be able to communicate, money will be needed for phone calls data,gifts and travelings especially to meet your partner once in a while.
Vulnerability: If the relationship isn't strong enough it can't stand the test of time the absence of the other partner exposes one to all sorts of temptations
where only determine and strong partners can sail through.
loneliness : there's a huge difference between seeing someone physically and talking to someone everyday,in long distance relationship even if communication is on a daily basis, there's still a huge gap which creates loneliness.
Trust issues: simple issues can easily create trust issues,the idea of not being present with a partner can easily drives in alot of negative thoughts especially with partners that are weak in trust.
Distractions: distractions may come from alot of things like your job,stress,etc this distractions has the power to create disconnections between partners and when there's no connection between two people the relationship will suffer
Patience : patience is a virtue and not everyone has it,but to maintain a long distance relationship it's important to have patience,it is a requirement from both partners where there's no patience there will be conflict
The love language: loving someone from a distance is hard.
It is worst with partners who's love language is physical connection and physical intimacy.
Such relationship can't stand the test of time.
I would be sure of my capacity and ability,I would take my partner's strength into consideration before embarking on a long distance relationship.
Thank you for reading through.
Words of married woman
For the singles ones, I would want to know their preference 😂😆😜
Though the points are both ways, but close relationship makes more sense in marriage
I truly get your points
I strongly believe it's all lies on individual capacity and strength.
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Ok mummy Iniemem
It’s true, loving someone from a distance is actually hard. You can’t express yourself well sometimes. Most times you’re on different pages.
It’s really hard
@abenad yes dear that's just it and when you can't really express yourself there will always be misconception of one's action
I think that most of these things boil down to bonding as you said. Lack of bonds. There are things people do together to make them more attracted to themselves and bonding is one of them. Long distance is hard and it’s always that one relationship that breaks your heart the most