Overcoming emotional pain – LOH # 235 Contest (Eng/Spn)
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Greetings to all, in this beautiful Ladies of Hive Community. Heeding the call of this contest number 235, today I return to participate. Here I share this week's invitation. Thank you @ifarmgirl for these great questions!
This time I will answer the first question of the contest: How do you recover from emotional pain or grief?
This is a great question, since emotional pain, or grief, is one of the most difficult experiences we as human beings go through throughout our lives. While physical pain can be unbearable at times, exhausting and tormenting, emotional pain is also unbearable, and even worse, it can cause physical pain, illness, and even make us unable to live. Proof of this are the depression, mental illness, and suicide cases we see every day. When the soul is broken, when our spirit is shattered, it all leads to sadness, desolation, and a host of other negative feelings that are overwhelming./div>
Here I conclude today's post, in which I've shared with you part of my life experience, which I hope will be useful. I bid you farewell, wishing you much health, prosperity, and joy. Remember: Not every day is the same, and more importantly: Everything you give, everything you do, will inevitably come back to you. Hugs!
Aquí finalizo mi post de hoy, en donde he compartido con ustedes parte de mi experiencia vital, la cual espero les sea útil. Me despido de ustedes, deseándoles mucha salud, prosperidad y alegría, y recuerden: No todos los días son iguales y más importante aún: Todo lo que das, todo lo que haces, inexorablemente volverá a ti. ¡Abrazos!
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Obviously, there are different levels of emotional pain, different degrees of grief, and it is precisely this depth or significance that will determine how and for how long we cope with these feelings, these situations, and how to emerge from this darkness and desolation. I'll give you a practical example: Experiencing the death of a loved one is not the same as experiencing the breakup of a partnership or friendship. While both experiences are painful, the death of someone we love is obviously much more complex and difficult to overcome.
In my specific case, I'm currently going through a complex legal situation, and this has drained me physically, mentally, and financially; but it hasn't been more painful by far than my father's death (and the other deaths I experienced last year, which I haven't talked about). Today, more than a year after my dad's passing, it still hurts (a lot), I still think about he (every day), I still feel that it is and will be very difficult to take away this pain (I don't think it will ever go away); but my chest doesn't hurt as much anymore, I no longer have that oppressive sensation, as if a large rock were crushing me.
So, in response to this contest's question, how do I recover from pain and emotional grief? Well, there are several ways. In other posts, I've said I have a personal mantra, and it's to repeat to myself: NOT ALL DAYS ARE THE SAME. And although it may seem silly, this gives me hope and allows me to be certain that pain and negativity will never last forever, that better, more beautiful, and happier days will come. On the other hand, and even more importantly, my faith in God is deep, so I trust in Him, in His infinite love, in His great mercy, and in His fierce justice. So I place many of the difficult situations in my life in His hands when I see I can't solve them. I won't say I leave all the work to Him, because I am convinced that we are in this life, on this planet, to learn and evolve, and part of that learning and growth also depends on us, as autonomous and intelligent entities. My personal experience has shown me that He hears my prayers.
Of course, at times in my life I have sought specialized medical care, meaning therapists and mental health doctors, who have allowed me to recover from difficult and emotionally draining events through therapy and medication. These professionals exist for a reason. However, I recommend that you always seek out people who are properly certified and from whom you have good references. I have heard of cases where psychologists and psychiatrists manipulate and abuse their patients, which is one of the worst crimes in existence. Of course, at times in my life I have sought specialized medical care, meaning therapists and mental health doctors, who have allowed me to recover from difficult and emotionally draining events through therapy and medication. These professionals exist for a reason. However, I recommend that you always seek out people who are properly certified and from whom you have good references. I have heard of cases where psychologists and psychiatrists manipulate and abuse their patients, which is one of the worst crimes in existence.
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Saludos a todos en esta hermosa Comunidad de Ladies of Hive. Atendiendo la convocatoria de este concurso número 235, hoy vuelvo a participar. Aquí les comparto la invitación de esta semana. Gracias @ifarmgirl por estas estupendas preguntas!
En esta ocasión responderé la primera pregunta del concurso: ¿Cómo te recuperas del dolor o duelo emocional?
Esta es una gran pregunta, ya que el dolor o duelo emocional, es una de las experiencias más difíciles que como seres humanos experimentamos a lo largo de nuestra existencia. Si bien el dolor físico puede ser insoportable en ocasiones, desgastante y atormentador, el dolor emocional también lo es, y peor aún, puede generar dolores físicos, enfermedades e, incluso, incapacitarnos para vivir. Prueba de ello son los cuadros depresivos, enfermedades mentales y casos de suicidio que podemos ver a diario. Y es que, al romperse el alma, al quebrantarse nuestro espíritu, todo desemboca en tristeza, desolación, y un montón de otros sentimientos negativos, que son agobiantes.
Obviamente hay diversos niveles de dolor emocional, distintos grados de duelo, y es precisamente esta profundidad o importancia, la que determinará cómo y por cuánto tiempo afrontar esos sentimientos, esas situaciones y poder salir de esa oscuridad, de esa desolación. Les daré un ejemplo práctico: No es igual experimentar la muerte de un ser muy amado al rompimiento de una sociedad o amistad. Si bien, ambas experiencias son dolorosas, obviamente el fallecimiento de alguien muy amado es mucho más complejo y difícil de superar.
En mi caso específico, actualmente estoy atravesando una situación compleja, de carácter legal, y esto me ha agotado física, mental y financieramente; pero ni por lejos ha sido más doloroso que la muerte de mi padre, (y las otras muertes que experimenté el año pasado, de las cuales no he hablado). Hoy, a más de un año del fallecimiento de mi papá, aún me duele (y mucho), aún lo pienso (cada día), aún siento que es y será muy complejo quitar este dolor (creo que nunca se irá); pero ya no me duele tanto el pecho, ya no tengo esa sensación opresiva, como si una gran roca me aplastase.
Entonces, en respuesta a la pregunta de este concurso, de saber ¿cómo me recupero del dolor y el duelo emocional?, pues hay varias formas. En otros posts he dicho que tengo un mantra personal, y es repetirme: NO TODOS LOS DÍAS SON IGUALES, y aunque parezca tonto, esto me da esperanza y me permite tener la certeza de que el dolor y la negatividad jamás serán eternos, que vendrán mejores días, más bonitos y felices. Por otra parte, y más importante aún, mi fe en Dios es profunda, por lo que en Él confío, en su infinito amor, en su gran misericordia y en su feroz justicia, así que pongo en las manos de Él muchas de las situaciones difíciles de mi vida, cuando veo que no puedo solucionarlas. No diré que le dejo todo el trabajo a Él, porque estoy convencida de que estamos en esta vida, en este planeta, para aprender y evolucionar, y parte de ese aprendizaje y crecimiento también depende de nosotros, como entidades autónomas e inteligentes. Mi experiencia personal me ha demostrado que Él oye mis plegarias.
Claro está, en algunas ocasiones de mi vida he recurrido a la atención médica especializada, entiéndase terapeutas y médicos en salud mental, que me han permitido recuperarme mediante terapia y medicación, de eventos difíciles y desgastantes emocionalmente. Por algo existen estos profesionales. No obstante, recomiendo que siempre recurran a personas que estén apropiadamente certificadas y de las cuales tengan buenas referencias. He sabido de caso en que psicólogos y psiquiatras manipulan y abusan a sus pacientes, lo cual es uno de los peores delitos o crímenes que existen.
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I can feel the pain you’re talking about, and it’s so true that emotional grief can be just as hard, or even harder, than physical pain. I really appreciate how you share your personal story. It helps me feel less alone because I’ve also been through tough times, and I know how heavy grief can feel.
Your mantra, “Not all days are the same,” is a powerful reminder that the bad times won’t last forever. It’s easy to get stuck in negative thoughts, but your perspective gives me hope that things can get better. The way you trust in God and your faith is also really inspiring. It shows that even when we feel like we can’t handle something, we can still find strength in believing that there’s something greater guiding us. Thanks for sharing, do have a blessed week!
Thank you so much for your beautiful and extensive comment. Faith in God can certainly keep us going, as we know there is someone loving, wise, and powerful who can help us navigate a difficult path. I'm glad my experience can be helpful to you; that was the point of sharing it. I hope you also have a wonderful week.
A lovely post dear! It is so true that the loss of a loved one does take time, and may never truly heal completely. I lost my dad over 20 years ago and I still have times where I could just sit and cry for the loss. Even as I type this, I tear up.
Remembering is a form of healing and it does get better with time. Thank you for sharing and have a lovely week. !LADY
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It's good to know that it's normal to feel the pain as if the loss were recent. It's really hard to get used to the idea that we can only see a loved one who is absent, only in dreams or memories. Thank you so much for your beautiful message. Have a wonderful week.
You are most welcome! Take care!🤗💜🌹
Nada se considera tonto cuando lo utilizamos como un impulso para ayudarnos a mejorar o salir de una situación donde no queremos estar. Espero que en algún momento puedas sanar todo el dolor que llevas por dentro y recordar con alegría a esos seres amados que, en lo más profundo ellos nunca desearían que estuvieras sufriendo. Muchas fuerzas!!
Muchas gracias por tu bonito y alentador comentario. Todos los días recuerdo a quienes he perdido, pues creo que nuestros muertos pueden vivir en nuestros corazones y recuerdos, que el recordarlos, es una forma de mantenerlos presentes y cercanos. Espero también que todo esto pase, y que vengan días más alegres y pacíficos.
¡Que tengas una hermosa semana!
I'm sorry to hear about your legal woes. I pray things will be settled soon and you will be free from all the complexities.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences on dealing with grief and pain. I love your mantra. Indeed, not all days are the same. That alone makes us hopeful. Thank you...
Thank you for your well wishes. I also hope this passes soon. I know it will, but I'd love for it all to end quickly.
I'm glad you like my personal mantra; it's quite helpful.
The questions you posed in this quiz are great; they make you think, and that's wonderful.
Have a great week.
Yo hace 11 años que perdí a mi papá y creo que es un dolor que no se termina se superar, sin embargo, se aprende a vivir con ello, ademas que como dices cada día es diferente. Lamento tus perdidas. Un abrazo!
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Quizás el tiempo es lo que hace que el dolor sea soportable, también las constantes ocupaciones y la misma dinámica de la vida. Al principio me sentía terrible, no sé ni cómo podía comer o trabajar, luego, con los meses, fue cediendo. Ahora está, pero no es tan opresivo. Gracias por tus bonitas palabras de aliento. Un abrazo para tí también.
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