Ladies of Hive Community Contest #166 :Weapons Women face life

Hello friends in Ladies of Hive Community, My post today is to contribute to the Ladies of Hive Community Contest #166. In this week's 166th edition, I will choose the first topic, namely :

1️⃣ What is the one lesson or knowledge you learned this year that benefitted you as a lady?

Throughout 2023, I often read news about divorce cases, these divorce cases occur among artists, ordinary people and even religious leaders. Of the many divorce cases that occur, most of the victims are women, especially women who don't work, women who don't have their own income. and women who choose to be housewives.

Some women usually choose to stop working outside the home after having children, because a mother's instinct is so great to protect her children, that she chooses to care for and take care of her children.

After stopping work and not making any money and having to depend completely on her husband, this makes women weak, making it easy for irresponsible husbands to dump them.

Household work is completely borne by the wife, on the grounds that the man earns his living outside and the wife does the work in the household. Sooner or later, men do not realize their responsibilities with household work and as if due to habitual factors, household work becomes entirely the wife's responsibility.

Based on the many divorce cases, I learned from the experiences of abused women, I learned very valuable lessons that will be useful throughout my life. Some very valuable lessons for us women are:

1.Women must be financially independent

Work now doesn't have to be done outside the home, a housewife can also make money from working at home online, many job offers can be done online, without disturbing housework. It all depends on the woman herself, is she able to work online?

2.Increase self-competence

A woman who is married and a mother does not mean she is not competent in any field, in fact a competent wife and mother will be more respected by her husband and family, because women are basically stronger than men, that's why there are also many women who work outside the home and still able to manage household work well, a great woman who is able to manage everything in balance.

3.Mentally Strong
Having mental strength is one of the strengths that every woman must have, to face this harsh world, women must be strong mentally and emotionally, with mental strength, women can fight various obstacles in their lives. Life is something that is dynamic and there will be many conflicts in this life. Therefore, women must learn to strengthen their mentality, so that they are not easily hurt by men.

4.Favorable Prenuptial Agreement

Life continues and does not stop at one point, after undergoing the daily routine of being husband and wife, there will be several conflicts in the household, because husband and wife are ordinary people who have feelings, to combine these two feelings sometimes conflict occurs. If the conflict can be resolved, then domestic life will run well, but what if the conflict cannot be resolved? it will end in divorce. In divorce cases like this the woman is usually in a weak position. So that women are not completely disadvantaged, it is a good idea to make a prenuptial agreement.

5.Maintaining Appearance

After marriage and pregnancy, many changes will occur in a woman's body, especially after giving birth and it is a woman's nature to become pregnant and give birth, women who have a uterus. Many cases of divorce that start from their partner's infidelity occur because women are unable to maintain their attractive appearance, many women think that after having children, men will be faithful, this is one of the ancient thoughts, because everyone likes beauty and beauty. Women are beautiful creatures of God, after becoming a mother we also have to be able to maintain our appearance, so that our husband remains at home and doesn't cheat, if our husband continues to cheat, at least we have tried.

Thank you for reading my post.
Best Regards
@umirais