My role in my friend's circle~what would it be?

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A friend is someone I like who isn't a member of my family with whom I share a deep connection, someone I can be vulnerable with, someone whose company I enjoy, someone who would take a bullet for me " Can my friends do that" I would ask them to confirm so I don't expose myself to danger.

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Growing up I never had a friend, when people are celebrating their childhood friends I had none, not like I was being picky in choosing my friends, I just didn't want anyone invading my space anytime they liked, I see how my sister's friends behaved, they come to the house unannounced, eat all our food in the house and my mum would be very happy, there was a day one came to the house and was crying, I was curious in knowing what would make a grown lady cry like that, then she told my sister what happened my feelings were shattered, she was crying because she broke up with her man, like legit cry and my question was "why didn't she cry in her house". Seeing all these things they were doing, told myself I wasn't gonna have friends cause I wasn't ready for the stress that comes with friendship.

When I got into the university I noticed the environment wasn't like home and I needed that company but still, I doubted myself till I met these amazing and sweet ladies who made my school life easy. Being in the middle of my friends I realized friendship wasn't how I saw it then. To date despite living in different states in the nation, our friendship is still strong, the communication hasn't stopped, just realized I've got friends for life.

Here comes the role I play in our friendship, there was a day I asked my friend about me then her first reply was I'm loud but in a good way so including a good way you think would make me feel good right? I asked her, well I'm only loud when I'm comfortable with you, so I guess I can be very loud when I'm around my circle of friends but in her words loud in a good way.

One said I act like a mother and I'm the most organized in the group because I always want things to be done right, this I know myself for though, what's the essence of doing things wrong when you can apply that same effort to make it right? My friends are used to beating deadlines at the last minute then you see them rushing and running around to get things done while I like it the other way around, I like meeting my target or task at hand early even way before the deadline because it increases my productivity, whenever we have a task I always tell them to get it done way before the deadline so we don't have to rush things at the last minute.

The other one said she feels comfortable talking to me, that I always have the right words to say to make her feel better, and I listen to her even when she is saying things that don't make sense well there is a saying "there sense in every nonsense" but I won't listen to the nonsense always.

The last one said I'm a problem solver, I was so excited like wow you mean I've solved your life problems before, and when was that, I wish I had known I wouldn't have asked the last question then she replied I'm her mathematics problem solver, well that can be life problem though but then of all things, I'll accept it, it isn't bad.

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