The battle of Resistance and Acceptance in my life - #232

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Firstly, I would like to start talking about resistance which is a common thing in our daily life. Our life is full of complex, it is mixed up with deep sorrow and triumphant victories, also full of challenges. In life everyone once in a time encounters challenges that tests our resilience and helps us to shape our character. The way a person responds to these difficulties in life can remarkably leave an influence to their mental & emotional well-being. There are two options, firstly we face our circumstances with resistance or secondly we accept the reality and embrace the acceptance.

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Resistance often manifest as a battle against the reality of our circumstances. It can be seen as many forms such as denial, rage, irritation, or even despair. The time when a person is resistant, that time they cling to the hope that things could have been different, also that if they could somehow rewind the time. This type of thinking can lead someone to a cycle of negative emotions, and there one can keeps finding themselves trapped in a loop such as “what ifs” and “if onlys.” For example, when someone faced a loss, they might try to resist the change by pondering over the past mistakes or feeling frustrations towards the circumstances that made the situation occur. In this way resistance causes a person to have anxiety & depression.

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Anyway, acceptance is the most powerful for a person to antidote the pain of resistance. It does not mean that we are making an excuse or agreeing to what has happened; rather, it shows a recognition of reality as it is supposed to be. Acceptance gives us the freedom to acknowledge our feelings without judgment also to understand, because sometimes we are not in a right position to control external events, but we can control our reactions to them. We are the one to decide and we must choose wisely. When we accept our circumstances everything gets easier and it's like opening a new possibility and pathways for our own growth.

Our emotions can lead to flawed decision making and make our judgment wrong, and slow down our capacity for clear and sensible thinking. In contrast, acceptance is the only thing that brings a sense of peace and clarity. It gives us the freedom to take a step back from the chaos & look carefully at the situations through a more objective lens. This shift of mind can lead on to feel the power of self awareness, as we already know that we have the ability to choose how we respond to our situations.

Based on my personal experience, acceptance is not always easy. It requires a high level of courage to confront the feelings and accept the reality of the circumstances. Acceptance is an eye opener for me because Embracing acceptance has led me to a deeper understanding zone of myself & my capacity for resilience. Well, it truly has encouraged me a lot and helped with my mindset to grow,now I do view challenges as opportunities for learning.

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In my life, I've faced many problems and that have taught me to gain the ability to accept rather than resist. One remarkable challenge I faced was being in a complex friendship. Initially, I found myself in a state of resistance, and couldn't help but replay the old memories in my mind, expecting for a different outcome. This resistance only increased my suffering, and prolonged my period of suffering. It wasn’t until I began to accept the reality of the circumstances and I started to acknowledge my feelings of loss, I allowed myself to mourn, then I started to heal. Acceptance gave me a self-reflection, I felt eagered to explore what I truly wanted in a friendship and how I could grow because of the past experience.

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I started to engage in activities that made me happier, connecting with new friends and rediscovering hobbies that I had neglected long ago. My new self is the result of my decision to accept rather than resist.

Life will take tests, but we can decide how to face them and that can define our journey.

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