(ENG/ESP) Ladies of Hive Community Contest #212: The key to happiness / La llave de la felicidad
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Hello to all the ladies of this community! I wanted to take advantage of participating in this week's contest, since both questions not only seemed very interesting to me, but through writing, I hoped to analyze a little more deeply what was asked and its meaning for me 🤗
Do you believe that we are happier today, than we were in times gone by?
In short, I don't think so, or rather, that is relative. Because, despite the advances that have been made in many areas and the enjoyment of the comforts that our ancestors did not have, such as the use of technology on a large scale, the truth is that the high rates of depression and dissatisfaction of people today are abysmal.
And it seems that when you sit down to talk seriously with the "happiest" of the group, it turns out that inside, the person carries a terrible regret.
In the past, there were many things that were strict and limited, but even in the present, I think that this has only evolved. The incessant and useless search of the human being to achieve perfection inevitably leads him to stumble and to never be satisfied with what he has, even despite having obtained it.
While in the past people could be happy about certain things that to us seemed irrelevant, they surely also thought that in the future, things could be "better" and "happier."
Another factor that inevitably interferes is ignorance. We are not aware most of the time, so we do not really realize that we have been happy at one time, until that time has passed and we compare it with other events in our lives. Therefore, we can think during our childhood how unhappy we are and then when we grow up, we long for those days of apparent "happiness."
They say that there is nothing like the present time, because only by being aware that we are existing, will we be able to realize that we are experiencing happiness; whether it is buying something after our effort, achieving a goal or simply being next to our loved ones. If we are not aware of the importance of it at that moment, we will only do so when time does its work and then we will say "when I was happy and I didn't know it."
That is why I try to be "present" as much as I can. Each moment is unique and unrepeatable, so the best thing we can do is enjoy the moment so that when we remember it, it may be with a smile, knowing that at that moment, we knew how to enjoy it and value it.
What brings true happiness and how important is it to you, to pursue it?
Over time I have learned that happiness is not an ideal to be achieved. Many times, after obtaining what we were fighting for to "achieve happiness", we feel empty and lacking something. So I could agree that happiness is in enjoying what you do, but not obsessing over reaching the goal. I think that in this way, the path to achieve something not only becomes easier, but even enjoyable.
Also, I think that we must understand that happiness depends on each individual and does not necessarily have to do with money or having titles to show off to others.
From time to time, I like to remember the time when one of my university professors, who was already somewhat older and was the head of the department where I worked, confided to me one of his greatest desires... He told me that when he was young, he always liked to play an instrument (I think it was the saxophone, I don't remember very well) and although he was able to dedicate himself to music for a while, he decided to abandon it to lean towards programming and at that moment when he told me that, I could realize that his desire was a frustrated desire, since music made him happy and he had nothing that motivated him in the same way.
Since then, I asked myself what it was that I really liked or made me happy and what I would be capable of doing to achieve it. Today, it is not that I am the best example, but I can assure you that what I do, I do it because it makes me happy. Now I value my time more and I don't sacrifice myself so much for others, because I know that, in the end, the only person responsible for my happiness is myself, so my motivations and steps have to be directed towards making me feel good.
So, I could conclude that for me, happiness as such is not pursued, it is worked on daily by doing what we believe can lead us to it, only to realize that the key to happiness has always been in the palm of our hands.
Thank you very much for visiting my post. I hope you found it interesting.
💚 Until next time! 💚
CONTENIDO EN ESPAÑOL
¡Hola a todas las damas de ésta comunidad! Quería aprovechar de participar en el concurso de ésta semana, puesto que ambas preguntas no sólo me parecieron muy interesantes, sino que a través de la escritura, esperaba analizar un poco más a fondo lo planteado y su significado para mí 🤗
¿Crees que somos más felices hoy que en tiempos pasados?
En definitiva, no lo creo o más bien, eso es relativo. Pues, a pesar de los avances que se han tenido en muchos ámbitos y de gozar de las comodidades de los cuales, no llegaron a disfrutar nuestros antepasados, como el uso de la tecnología a gran escala, lo cierto es que los altos índices de depresión e inconformidad de las personas actualmente, es abismal.
Y es que, pareciera que cuando te sientas a hablar seriamente con el "más feliz" del grupo, resulta que por dentro, la persona carga con un terrible pesar.
En el pasado, había muchas cosas que eran estrictas y limitadas, pero inclusive en el presente, pienso que eso no ha hecho más que evolucionar. La búsqueda incesante e inútil del ser humano por alcanzar la perfección, lo lleva inevitablemente a darse tropezones y a nunca estar satisfecho con lo que tiene, incluso a pesar de haberlo obtenido.
Mientras que, en el pasado, las personas podían alegrarse por ciertas cosas que a nosotros, nos parecerían irrelevantes, seguramente ellos también pensaban que en un futuro, las cosas podrían ser "mejores" y más "felices".
Otro factor que inevitablemente interfiere, es el del desconocimiento. No somos conscientes la mayor parte del tiempo, así que, no nos damos cuenta realmente de que hemos sido felices en un tiempo, hasta que el mismo no ha pasado y lo comparamos con otros eventos de nuestras vidas. Por eso, podemos llegar a pensar durante nuestra infancia, lo infelices que somos para luego al crecer, añorar esos días de aparente "felicidad".
Bien dicen que no hay nada como el tiempo presente, porque sólo al ser conscientes de que estamos existiendo, seremos capaces de darnos cuenta de que estamos experimentando la felicidad; ya sea, comprando algo luego de nuestro esfuerzo, realizando una meta o simplemente estando al lado de nuestros seres queridos. Si no somos conscientes en ese momento, de la importancia de ello, sólo lo haremos cuando el tiempo, haga su trabajo y entonces diremos "cuando era feliz y no lo sabía".
Por eso, trato en la medida de estar "presente" lo más que pueda. Cada momento es único e irrepetible, así que lo mejor que podemos hacer es disfrutar del momento para cuando lo recordemos, sea con una sonrisa, sabiendo que en ese instante, supimos disfrutarlo y valorarlo.
¿Qué nos trae la verdadera felicidad y qué importancia tiene para ti perseguirla?
Con el tiempo he aprendido que la felicidad, no se trata de un ideal que hay que alcanzar. Muchas veces, luego de obtener aquello por lo que estábamos luchando para "lograr ser felices", nos sentimos vacíos y carentes de algo. Así que podría estar de acuerdo con que, la felicidad está en disfrutar de lo que se hace, pero no obsesionándonos con llegar a la meta. Pienso que de ese modo, el camino para lograr algo, no sólo se vuelve más fácil, sino hasta disfrutable.
También, creo que hay que comprender que la felicidad depende de cada individuo y no necesariamente tiene que ver con dinero o con tener títulos para ostentarlos ante los demás.
De vez en cuando, me gusta recordar la vez que uno de mis profesores de universidad, el cual ya era algo mayor y era jefe del departamentos en donde trabajaba, me confió uno de sus más grandes anhelos... Me contó que cuando era joven, siempre le gustó tocar un instrumento (creo que era el saxofón, no recuerdo muy bien) y aunque pudo dedicarse a la música por un tiempo, decidió abandonarlo para inclinarse por la programación y en ese momento en que me contaba aquello, pude darme cuenta de que ese deseo suyo, se trataba de un deseo frustrado, ya que la música, lo hacía feliz y no tenía nada que lo motivase del mismo modo.
Desde entonces, me pregunté qué era lo que realmente me gustaba o me hacía feliz y qué sería capaz de hacer para lograrlo. Actualmente, no es que sea el mejor ejemplo, pero puedo asegurar que lo que hago, lo hago porque me hace feliz. Ahora valoro más mi tiempo y no me sacrifico tanto por los demás, porque sé, que al final, la única responsable de mi felicidad soy yo misma, así que mis motivaciones y pasos, tienen que estar dirigidas a hacerme sentir bien.
Así que, podría concluir que para mí, la felicidad como tal no se persigue, se trabaja diariamente realizando aquello que creemos, nos puede guiar hasta ella, sólo para darnos cuenta de que la llave de la felicidad, estuvo siempre en la palma de nuestras manos.
Muchas gracias por haber visitado mi publicación. Espero que les haya parecido interesante.
I agree with you, happiness is not pursued, we work day by day doing what we believe can lead us to it, and if it is within each one of us, thank you for sharing your experiences,
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It's good that we agree with those thoughts 🤗 Since I have taken that perspective, I admit that I have been able to start enjoying my life despite the circumstances and above all, enjoying what I do 😌 Thank you very much for reading my post and for commenting 🤗💚
That's right, you're welcome, have a good night.
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